Why Trusting People Feels So Hard

Trust issues aren’t about being suspicious. They’re about being hurt. At some point, someone may have betrayed your confidence, broken a promise, or made you feel foolish for opening up. Your mind remembers that pain and tries to protect you from feeling it again.

Because of this, you may find it hard to share, commit, or rely on people. You might wait for the worst to happen, even when nothing is wrong. This isn’t you being dramatic — it’s your brain preventing emotional injury.

Healing trust doesn’t mean trusting everyone. It means slowly learning that not everyone is unsafe. It means recognising red flags but also green flags — people who show consistency, kindness, and honesty.

You are not “too guarded.” You are protecting a heart that has known disappointment.

Let yourself open up slowly. You deserve safe, steady connections.